“Now I know why all the trees change in the fall/ I know you were on my side/ Even when I was wrong/ And I love you for giving me your eyes/
Staying back and watching me shine” -Taylor Swift (The Best Day)
When I was young, my dad ruled all. My mama would often say, “I know, your dad is your favorite.” It wasn’t that I didn’t love my mama, but my papa cherished me in a way that she couldn’t. And as much as I still adore my father, my mama brings her own gifts that he could not hold a candle to.
He didn’t show me how to roll my hair with curlers for over an hour most mornings when he was already running late. He did not even attempt to sew my Halloween costumes. He didn’t stay up watching “The Golden Girls” erupting in laugher into the wee hours of the morning with me, and he didn’t use cookie cutters for my peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. My papa is wonderful, but he isn’t my mama.
Now that we live across the country from each other, I find myself calling my mama for her amazing Southern recipes, what I should wear to a wedding, how to get a stain out of my favorite sweater, if I should try the $1.99 wine at the market (she always vetoes that one), and sometimes just to hear her voice. There are some things that only mamas know. So, to the lady that thought I didn’t love her best, I saw everything that you did for me, and I love you better than best because that’s the only way that you ever loved me.
